Crabtree's Kittle House
California had jurisdiction.
Evie had been born in New York but had lived her entire life in San Francisco — the apartment at Millennium Tower, the house in North Beach, the pediatrician, the nanny. When Tara took Evie in the back of an Uber on June 9, 2018, Steve’s attorney Stacey Poole obtained emergency Automatic Temporary Restraining Orders from San Francisco Superior Court within hours. The California court had issued the first custody orders. The California court had the evidence — the police reports, the declarations, the nanny’s sworn account of the drugging.
But Tara had filed in New York. Not in San Francisco, where the evidence was. In Westchester County Family Court — the courthouse in White Plains where her family’s attorney had an office, where her family’s connections ran deep, where the proceedings would be closed to the public and decided by a single judge rather than a jury.
The two courts communicated. Under the Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act, only one state can exercise jurisdiction over a custody dispute at a time. California had the emergency orders. New York had the child.
On September 11, 2018, Judge Arlene Gordon-Oliver convened an attorney conference in the Westchester Family Court and asked the question that would determine the next four years of Steve’s life:
“Is anyone objecting to this Court having jurisdiction? If you do object, then I’ll set it down for an evidentiary hearing, but do you really want to spend time doing that?”
Steve’s attorney, Jason Advocate, asked for a moment to speak with his client. The calculation was this: challenge New York jurisdiction and potentially spend months in procedural litigation while Evie remained at the Walsh compound in Chappaqua, unreachable. Or accept jurisdiction — surrender California’s courts, its jury system, its public record — and see his daughter now.
Steve chose Evie.
He accepted New York jurisdiction. The case would be decided in a closed courtroom in White Plains, without a jury, by a single judge who would recuse herself within the year.
Steve had already been flying to New York. He had come in mid-August and stayed for two weeks, trying to see his daughter. The court’s original order had designated Walsh Sr. — Tara’s father — as the person who would supervise Steve’s visits with Evie. But Walsh Sr. had refused. When Steve’s attorney Katherine Chestnut contacted Maura Walsh about supervising instead, Walsh Sr. came to the law office in person: “Don’t contact my wife. This is harassment. How dare you?”
All counsel agreed: the grandfather was not going to supervise. Steve had brought Abby Tedla — the nanny who had told him about the drugging, who had stayed for Evie — and a temporary stipulation was arranged for a single supervised visit. The visit took place at the Crabtree’s Kittle House, a historic inn on the Old Post Road in Chappaqua where Steve had taken a room. The inn had gardens and a veranda and the unhurried quality of a place that expected nothing more contentious than a late reservation. The parking lot was small and shaded by trees that had not yet begun to turn.
It was one visit. Steve used an hour and a half of the three hours available.
He flew back to California. Then returned the following week.
The email went to the grandparents, not to Tara. The attorneys were copied. The language was measured and formal — the language of a man who understood that every sentence would be entered into a court file. The request was not for custody. It was not for unsupervised time. It was for a visit. Three to four hours. In the carriage house. With the nanny present. Both today and tomorrow work for me.
The visit was arranged for the weekend. Steve and Abby met the Walsh grandparents and Evie in the parking lot of the Crabtree’s Kittle House.
Maura Walsh was very uncomfortable and looked like she had been crying.
Steve suggested they all sit for a moment in the hotel’s outdoor seating area. He did not demand. He did not raise his voice. He proposed the kind of thing people propose when they are trying to make an impossible situation feel normal — or at least quiet enough that the eight-month-old in the grandmother’s arms would not feel the shaking — sit down, breathe, let the baby see that the adults are calm.
Maura did not initially want to hand Evie over.
Fifteen to twenty minutes passed. Steve Russell and Walsh Sr. worked together — the father and the grandfather, the two men who had been sending each other hostile texts for weeks, who had been described to the court as adversaries, now standing in a parking lot in Chappaqua trying to convince a grandmother to let go of the child in her arms.
Walsh Sr. intervened. He and Steve were able to convince Maura to hand Evie to Abby Tedla — not to Steve, but to the nanny, to the woman Evie knew, the familiar person who had fed her and bathed her and held her through the nights at Millennium Tower.
Maura began to cry and shake as she handed Evie to Abby. Evie began to cry as well.
Steve and Abby walked quickly to their hotel room. Abby handed Evie to Steve.
In his arms she calmed down quickly.
He spent the rest of the visit holding her. After she was calm and happy, Steve sang her songs and talked to her for about forty-five minutes. He sat on the floor of a hotel room in Chappaqua and held his daughter and sang to her and the world outside the room — the attorneys, the jurisdictional arguments, the grandmother shaking in the parking lot — did not exist.
At the end of the visit, Steve walked out toward where he had left the Walsh grandparents. But they had gotten into their car and moved to a spot high on the driveway with a view of the hotel.
Maura was crying in the car. Walsh Sr. was inside with her, trying to calm her down.
Steve approached with Evie.
When Evie saw Grandma, she began to cry.
The baby had been calm with her father. She had been held and sung to and had laughed on the floor of a hotel room with a stuffed elephant. She became distressed at the sight of her grandmother. The transition was immediate and visible — the same child, the same afternoon, two different responses that no amount of legal argument could explain away.
Steve handed Evie back to Grandma. He told her how well the visit had gone. He offered to share videos and pictures from the visit.
The car drove away toward Tara Knoll.
Three days later, on September 11, the attorneys convened before Judge Gordon-Oliver.
The hearing transcript reveals the system Steve had entered. His attorney, Chestnut, explained that Walsh Sr. had expressed “disdain” for Steve and refused to supervise. Tara’s attorney, Antoncic, told the judge that Steve had “shown up and expected everyone to drop everything.” The judge agreed: “That’s how I feel, to be honest with you.”
The court’s concern was not with what had happened at the visit — the grandmother’s refusal, the child’s distress, the tears at the sight of Maura. The court’s concern was procedure. Steve had arranged a visit through a stipulation rather than filing an emergency access request. “That’s not how we do emergencies in this Court.”
Steve’s attorney tried to explain: “His number one priority is to see this child.”
The judge appointed a supervisor. She said the name quickly, as if it had been waiting on the tip of her tongue: Delia Farquharson.
The Attorney for the Child, Jennifer Jackman, agreed immediately. She had a name ready too. The appointment happened in minutes — the casual efficiency of a courthouse where certain people are always available and certain names are always suggested.
The judge also addressed jurisdiction. After Steve accepted New York, the judge moved to the next concern: she wanted Tara to stay put. Steve’s attorney had raised the possibility that Tara might leave the grandparents’ home — that she might take Evie somewhere else, somewhere further from Steve’s reach.
The order was entered: the mother shall continue to reside with her parents and shall not relocate without court approval or written agreement of both parties.
The order assumed that the Walsh compound was safe. It assumed that the grandparents were stable. It assumed that the family dynamics visible at Easter dinner — the controlled table, the performing children, the patriarch who counted change — were not themselves a form of confinement.
Jennifer Jackman, the Attorney for the Child, had visited the Walsh compound and reported to the court: “I just saw them recently at their home and I’m satisfied with the baby, who is wonderfully happy and beautiful, growing very, very well, is safe at the house with the grandparents and the mother.”
The child who had cried at the sight of her grandmother three days earlier was wonderfully happy at the house. The child who had calmed in her father’s arms was safe without him.
The court had two pieces of evidence. One was a report from an attorney who had visited the Walsh household. The other was a child’s body in a parking lot, telling anyone who watched what the words in court filings could not.
The court chose the report.
Steve did not return to California. He rented a house near the Walsh compound — close enough to be present for visits, close enough that the family could see him, close enough that the town of Chappaqua, designed for privacy, would have to accommodate his refusal to disappear.
He looked at houses in Chappaqua and in the surrounding area — the winding roads through forest, the properties set far enough apart that the word neighbor was aspirational, the odd stillness of a place whose residents preferred to stay behind their gates. His attorney told the judge: “He’s going to make himself available until such time as we sort out the custody situation here.”
The custody situation would not sort itself out. It would deepen and harden and produce six supervisors, four recusals, two defaults, and a system that would spend four years treating the father who sang to his daughter on the floor of a hotel room as if he were the danger from which she needed protection.
But that afternoon at Crabtree’s Kittle House — the parking lot, the fifteen minutes, the grandmother’s arms, the grandfather’s intervention, the hotel room, the songs, the elephant, the child who calmed when held by her father and cried when returned to the car — that afternoon was the last time the evidence would be simple.
After this, the system would make it complicated.
Machine Summary
- Post
- B24 — Crabtree's Kittle House
- Act
- Act V — The Cover (2019–2020)
- Summary
- The first supervised visit after the emergency order. Steve surrenders California jurisdiction to see his daughter. The grandparents bring Evie to a parking lot in Chappaqua. Maura refuses to let go. Walsh Sr. intervenes. The child calms in her father's arms and cries when she sees her grandmother.
- Evidence Confidence Score
- 88/100
- Tags
- 2018, Abby Tedla, Chappaqua, Crabtree's Kittle House, Custody, Delia Farquharson, Evie, Family System, Interior Moment, Jason Advocate, Jennifer Jackman, Judge Gordon-Oliver, Katherine Chestnut, Kelly Turnure, Legacy Protection, Maura Walsh, Privacy Architecture, Supervised Visitation, Tara Knoll, Walsh Sr., Westchester
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