August 16, 2021

S♥️E: Grandma Linda's Letter to Judge Schauer

S♥️E: Grandma Linda's Letter to Judge Schauer

From the StevieLovesEvie.com archive:

This was my fourth trip up to see Evie in the past month. The drive, as you well know, is about six-and-a-half hours each way. It is very hard to do every week. The first week, I was made to turn around by Stephen Walsh and head home without seeing Evie. He acts like Evie belongs to him.
Do you know that Tara lied to the Court about moving out and having a home for Evie? Do you know that her address is now "confidential" because Maura and Steve Walsh view themselves as having custody of her and they don't want the Court to know that THEY have Evie at their home? Tara said, "Things get bad when she tries to leave."
I am very worried about Tara and Evie. I think that Tara needs to be able to leave Westchester if she wants. Do you know Tara's parents threatened to sue Tara if she moved out. And do you know that Tara writes and posts pictures about being kept in the attic? You should know these things. They matter. This is the reason why it is so difficult to see Evie, and it always has to be near the Walsh home.
Tara lived in San Francisco with me and my son for many weeks before Evie was born...and after. Tara was estranged from her family for the entire three years she dated my son. She hated them and never spoke to them. None of this makes sense. Every time, I have called the Walshes to find out what is going on, they just hang up on me. Who does that? They have neve asked a single question about Tara or Evie, or even Evie's family medical history from her father's side of the family. Something is not right at that house.
Generally the visit today went very well. We went to a park and the beach. We found a crab and had a ton of fun. When Tara called early and asked if Evie wanted to be picked up, Evie said "No." Evie wasn't being mean to her mother, she just isn't shy about saying what she wants and she and I have a lot of a fun. Steve's brother has two children a little older than Evie that I helped raise, and everything went very smoothly.
There were some very concerning things, however. Evie asks about and wants to see her Dad. Tara tells Evie, and says in front of her, BOTH wrongly that her Dad is actually here at the hotel and that Dad can't be with her because he's "not allowed" by the Court. She doesn't tell Evie that SHE is the one not allowing.
Evie is very confused about this. Evie does not know why Mommy says Dad is bad. She asks questions about it like "Is Daddy sick." Or, "Daddy are you sick.' Or, 'Doesn't Daddy miss/like me?' At the same time, Tara makes Evie think Dad is hiding at the actual hotel! Evie thinks her Dad rejecting her because he is nearby and not seeing her. It's a terribly cruel thing to do.
Tara is extremely paranoid about Dad. She would not provide Evie a a car seat because she thinks he will "bug" it. I had to a purchase a car seat for the driver, because Tara would not provide. Tara was late today and Evie was unfed, very tired and cranky. She was crying when she arrived and Tara told me it was because Evie did not want to see me. It turns out she just hadn't been fed.
Tara said she was estranged and that they had "abused her" and sent her to an awful place when she was young. After Tara was caught putting drugs in my son's wine and she had the episode where she dropped Evie and sent her to the emergency room.  Even then the Walsh family never called us. I think we've exchanged just a few phone calls in six years and they were all to tell me how they didn't want to be involved or to send me home after driving six-hours to see Evie because Maura was having another breakdown.
Tara called and said that she had a dentist appointment and needed to pick Evie up at about 4 instead of 5:30. It was then that Tara asked out loud to Evie if she wanted Mommy to pick her up and Evie said no. it Evie made it clear that she didn't want to go with Mommy. Mommy came anyway and picked up Evie early.
Couldn't Tara have scheduled HER Dentist for a different day or time? Did she not know about the appointment? Why tell me only then? Why not go her appointment and pick Evie up a little late? Wouldn't that have been better?  I always have to be "flexible" and "give more notice," because Stephen, or Maura Walsh never leave their home, and Tara couldn't simply pick her up Evie AFTER the dentist?
When Tara arrived to pick her up, she had other news too. She stated that Evie started swimming lessons every day next week and had ballet on my visit day...Thursdays. She asked if I would take weekends instead. It was shocking to me that a Mom who was gone all week wanted to give Evie away on the weekends.
Tara is not spending very much time with Evie, I don't think. How is it that you all aren't seeing this? This is not great for Evie and I worry that Tara does not realize what her parents are doing. They have her so worried that my son is going to take Evie, but very much act to me like they already have or intend to have custody of Evie when this is all over.
Evie arrived with an injury on her face and [Mom] said Evie had fallen. Things happen to kids I know, but Evie seems to have a lot of injuries, sickness, allergies. Too many. Evie is not potty trained, and I don't think anyone is really helping her with that. We made a lot of progress in one day, so I don't know why this is the case.
Tara does not provide diapers when she drops off Evie. That isn't really like Tara, in my opinion and I worry that she is being pressured to make my visits as difficult as possible. This is a very long way to drive for a day that Tara cuts short at the start and brings Evie without proper sleep, diapers, or a car seat. Then picks her up early. She is not taking good care of Evie and is very paranoid about Steve. Very very very very paranoid.
The reason Tara says she does not want Dad to see Evie is because she is deathly afraid that Dad will "take her." There is no other reason. Steve would not do this despite what Mom did to him, but I think that child services needs to know what is going on at the Walsh home in Chappaqua.
Evie is fine with strangers, despite what you hear. She knows her Dad, asks for her Dad and should not be being told that he is here and can't or doesn't want to see her. That is terrible. I am not sure why Evie can meet strangers at swim practice, strangers at ballet, and a strange driver, and strangers at a hotel, but can't FaceTime with Dad unless some additional stranger from the Court is there.
Maura Walsh abused and drugged her kids and "Mom" (Tara) sued them for emancipation. They have been warned many times by police about the things they do. Tara's attorney called CPS on them dozens of times. All I do is have a lovely time with my granddaughter, but I CAN'T BE TRUSTED with a FaceTime. How many other fathers in Westchester have supervised facetime calls? If there aren't any, is all of this because that other Judge is being removed after Steve became a whistleblower?
If you saw how upsetting it was to Evie to keep having her Dad taken from her, again and again, or you could see how wonderful Evie and her Dad are together. Why does no one ever ask about the visits, or to see any of the photos? You only ever ask us to not record the visits. It almost as if you don't want to see what makes Evie happy and the relationship you are fixated on destroying.
There are videos and pictures and reports from the nannies and supervisors for past visits too I was at. You should look at those too. Steve is a very good Dad.
Do you not think it's odd that Steve and Maura Walsh are so central to Evie's lifet that they actually claim to be her primary caregivers in their depositions in SF, but can't be bothered with facilitating any familial ties. Isn't that a little bit suspicious? Do you think maybe the reason they act so nutty is because they know what really happened. Have you looked at their depositions from the San Francisco battery case? That family is bonkers. I am worried for Evie and Tara.
I don't know who you people are, but you all share the blame for this. A blog post? FaceTime? Who are you? You went to law school for this? You must know the harm you are causing this girl. I have never in all my days imagined anything so backward.
Evie's Mom is stuck between what she sees as two impossible options and doesn't know what to do.
It has been three years (edit: four+ years as of Oct 2023) of this stuff. How much time does Tara get to prove a case she said again and again now was a lie? Five years? 10 years? Someone should not be able to lie in order to kidnap a child and get away with it.
Sincerely,
Grandma Linda

-Edited for typos, Oct 23, 2023.