Mom's side of the story is riddled with inaccuracies, shifty storytelling, and straight-up lies. These are their truths.

The Truth: Mom struggles with her mental health.

Mom has struggled with diagnosed mental illness her entire life and has a family history of mental illness. Dad, her own family members, and mental health professionals have all unsuccessfully extended a helping hand.

Members can see the evidence for themselves:

The Lie: Dad gaslit Mom into thinking she was more mentally ill than she is.

Mom's testimony for Dad's Domestic Violence Restraining Order, 8/29/2018, p.88
Mom's testimony for Dad's Domestic Violence Restraining Order, 8/29/2018, p.88

The Truth: Mom's family has a history of mental illness.

Before I had kids, I would often have telephone conversations with my mom in which she would say: “Are you sure you want to have children given the history of mental illness in our family?”

So I am on two medications. Lexapro, which is the bomb, and Lamictal, which I’be been on for about 10 years. Laictal is for the treatment of Bipolar disorder. I don’t think I’m really bipolar, but once a doctor gets my family history, that’s like the first thing he puts me on.

Excerpted from 6/29/17 untitled blog post from "A Brie Grows in Brooklyn."

Mom's sister suspected that she suffered from Borderline Personality Disorder years ago.

Screenshot shared in 09/08/16 post titled "With the Good Comes the Crazy" from "A Brie Grows in Brooklyn"
Screenshot shared in 09/08/16 post titled "With the Good Comes the Crazy" from "A Brie Grows in Brooklyn"

The Truth: Mom first shared her mental health history with Dad while he helped her find a new psychiatrist in SF.

He relayed it back to her via text message to make sure it was correct.

- Dad texts Mom on 3/6/2018 at 3:39 PM
- Dad texts Mom on 3/6/2018 at 3:39 PM

In addition, Mom often joked about her struggles with disordered eating, even while pregnant.

Excerpted from 1/21/16 blog post titled "“How To Have An Anorexic Pregnancy: Tips From An Expert” from “A Brie Grows in Brooklyn”
Excerpted from 1/21/16 blog post titled "“How To Have An Anorexic Pregnancy: Tips From An Expert” from “A Brie Grows in Brooklyn”

The Truth: Mental health professionals in both private practice and the courts have expressed concern about Mom's mental health and have suggested various measures to combat her struggles.

Mom's therapist confirmed a Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and Bipolar diagnosis in 2018.

Response for San Francisco Emergency Protective Order 7/10/2018, Exhibit B
Response for San Francisco Emergency Protective Order 7/10/2018, Exhibit B

Her New York psychiatrist insisted on speaking with someone in San Francisco while Mom transferred care.

However, Mom was less than enthusiastic.

Mom sends messages to Grandma Linda 6/5/18. San Francisco DVRO, 10/25/19.
Mom sends messages to Grandma Linda 6/5/18. San Francisco DVRO, 10/25/19.

"Thank you for talking to this doctor she should be calling now she's a real narc"

In addition to her therapists' and psychiatrists' concerned interventions, The Westchester Family Court confined Mom to live with her parents for Evie's safety in 2018.

Order by Hon. Arlene Gordon-Oliver, Westchester Family Court, 11/11/18. 
Order by Hon. Arlene Gordon-Oliver, Westchester Family Court, 11/11/18. 

Text of Excerpt of Order (above): The mother shall continue to reside with her parents and shall not relocate without court approval or written agreement of both parties.